Perception is NOT reality

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There have been plenty of times in my life where I was certain that my perception—the way I saw things—really was the reality of the situation. We’ve all been there. You think that your job is too difficult because your boss makes your life hard; a relationship is at a brinking point because you think that too many things have changed, and not for the better; your financially so unstable that anything could send you into bankruptcy; or that God must be so frustrated with my life that even He is disappointed.

noticerOver the weekend, I had the opportunity to read through a book that’s being released tomorrow called, The Noticer by Andy Andrews. It’s an efficient but impactful story-based read on the lives of five people who found themselves at the end of their rope, or so they thought.

“I am a noticer,’ he said. “It’s my gift…I notice things that other people overlook. And, you know, most of them are in plain sight.” -p. 6

While I could go on and on about the book, the stories and the perspectives that were changed, I’d rather reveal two areas that I was personally challenged:

1. Timing

The Noticer always showed up in perfect timing. He would seek first to understand before he saught to be understood. His depth of knowledge about peoples lives made me realize that I move too quickly. He knew their names, kids names, life stories, personal facts, job status—he took interest in knowing the details before he offered anything. The result, people immediately felt understood and they felt as if he had their backs. His perspective that their story was only part of their future, their perspective about their story was what would move them from their dispair to hope.

2. Perception is NOT reality

While we’ve been told that our perception is reality, The Noticer clearly reveals that it is not. It may be what you believe to be true, but in fact, if you would allow the Noticers in your life to reveal a new perspective, your perceived reality would quickly change.

If you’re wondering if your perception really is reality, I’d highly recommend that you buy this book today. Chances are, you’ll find yourself in one of the many stories that The Noticer shares and in the end, you’ll find hope.

Warning

This book is not for stubborn, prideful or arrogant people. It’s offers depths of wisdom and paradigm shifts that you will be forced to face. If you’re currently happy in your misery perceptions, I’d recommend that you stay far, far away.

Measuring Client Loyalty

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The state of the economy is finding all of us in an deep dig to discover and fully realize our core competencies. If you’re a small or medium size business owner, casting a wide net of products and service offerings no longer works. You have to find your niche and own it.  If you’ve been able to be relatively unaffected by the downturn in the economy, good for you, but gone are the days of running your business on assumptions. Why?

The results of the downturn in our economy are going to be better businesses, products and services, driven by people who are determined to make it no matter what. The only thing that’s going to keep your clients from moving over to the next company, product or service is loyalty. Are your current clients that loyal? If you think yes, then you don’t really know, unless you know yes. [Read more...]

So, We Didn’t Punk’d Ashton (an update)

Update: Most of you reading my previous post this morning likely thought that pulling off the punk’d wasn’t possible; and honestly, the odds where seriously stacked against us. However, Ashton only had the success that he’s had today because he had an outrageous idea and gave it a shot. The result? He won, got on Oprah, Larry King Live, CNN Breaking News email blast and raised almost $1M for the fight against malaria, all because he wasn’t afraid of failure.

At the end of the day, I’d rather try and fail a hundred times than never try at all.

Let’s Punk’d Ashton Kutcher

This morning at 1:17am, I received a CNN Breaking News Alert,

– Ashton Kutcher is first to reach 1 million followers in Twitter contest with CNN.

As of 7:44am CST, Ashton (@aplusk) has 1,026,082 followers and growing.

Now Ashton is always Punk’ding people. What if we punk’d him?

Today is #followfriday on Twitter. Let’s make today #unfollowAshtonFriday Friday and see if we can get him to drop below 1M followers. What would Oprah, CNN, Larry King, even Ashton have to say about that?

Join me and #unfollowAshtonFriday now!

Here’s a copy and paste retweet:

RT Join me in Punk’ding Ashton Kutcher (@aplusk) and to get him below 1M followers TODAY! #unfollowAshtonFriday

Here we go…

Your business card sucks!

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You think you know about business cards.

Think again.

It’s die…..cut…….foil stamped….emmmmbosssed.

Makes me laugh.

Caleb @ 3 months

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I snapped this picture of Caleb tonight on the eve of being three months old. It’s going so fast.

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Thanks to Cameron & Maya Strang for the Oregon Ducks outfit.

Hey Dad’s. What’s your bedtime ritual with your kid(s)?

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Hey Dad’s! Tonight, I was thinking through my bedtime ritual with my daughter and wondered what you do? Maybe you do something special that I could add to my nighttime to mix it up.

Here’s what my night usually looks like with my almost-two year-old:

  • Dinner
  • Playtime
  • PJ’s
  • Brush the teeth
  • Wave in the mirror while I help her brush her teeth
  • Play with some toys
  • Read two books, okay three, okay maybe five
  • Put her in her crib
  • Situate her seven stuffed animals (I counted them tonight), two blankets and pillow
  • Sing Jesus Loves You to her, maybe two times
  • Blow kisses anywhere from two to 11 times
  • Say I love you and see you in the morning
  • Lights Out
  • PS. “I love you” one more time

Then I walk down the stairs and 9 times out of 10, I have to tell my wife how sweet that girl is.

What’s your bedtime ritual?

I want to be generous like THAT!

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True generosity, leaves people speechless.

Today, I’m speechless.

Such generosity begs me to ask myself…

“When was the last time I left someone speechless?”

I don’t know that I ever have. Maybe, that’s the point?

“Listen carefully to what I am saying—and be wary of the shrewd advice that tells you how to get ahead in the world on your own. Giving, not getting, is the way. Generosity begets generosity. Stinginess impoverishes.” Mark 4:24

Park Extension: Divide it Into Small Jobs

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2623_72374587968_516007968_1493128_656020_nCheck out my new band name and album cover.

Well, not really, but who says I can’t pretend?

Create your own band name and album cover by following these directions:

1. Go to “wikipedia.” Hit “random… Read More” or click http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Special:Random. The first random wikipedia article you get is the name of your band.

2. Go to “Random quotations” or click http://www.quotationspage.com/random.php3. The last four or five words of the very last quote of the page is the title of your first album.

3. Go to flickr and click on “explore the last seven days” or click http://www.flickr.com/explore/interesting/7days Third picture, no matter what it is, will be your album cover.

4. Use photoshop or similar to put it all together.

5. Post it to your favorite social photo site (Flickr, Mobile Me, etc) with this text in the “caption” and post a link to your cover in the comments section below.